No, I Won’t Vote For You. Yes, I Know You Voted For My Last Post.

Author: Gab Goldenberg

I’m in a crap situation, and I need to learn to say no. First, because saying yes is eating into my own time and second because I’m embarassed to admit that I voted for friends’ submissions that were average and not really deserving of votes.

Shana retaught me to say no, so many thanks to her! And my friend Sean Maguire (of 360 Sell) recently served me a raw dish of ‘your page sucks‘ and in fairness – I agree to a large extent! (Just not about the aspects that matter to Google, which is what that post is about.) Kudos to Sean for being a straight talker!

Besides that, while we’re on the topic, I want to make the point to some SEO friends of mine who frequently message me on MSN about digging their stuff. I’ve done it before and will probably do it again, but you’re going to have to up the ante. I’m ashamed to say that some of those pieces I voted for took you all of 10 minutes to write and 5 more to edit. Give me a break!

On the same note, to those people who constantly send me stuff on SU and hardly return the attention, kindly take me off your lists. It’s reeeeally annoying and I’ve begun thumbing down those posts of yours that feature Adsense above the fold and content below. Is that your goal?

p.s. If you were wondering why I didn’t post much this week, check out this interview with Tyler.

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  1. Gab, that is exactly what I meant when I wrote that "People Pleaser 2.0" you mentioned. The pressure to feel you have to vote something up when your social network friends ask. And, for me at least... not feeling I should ask for my friends to check out my posts. As a matter of fact.... normally I wait a while hoping friends will find my post instead of asking at all. Thank you for the mention, Gab. :)

    Comment by Shana Albert - April 11, 2008 @ 8:23am
  2. That patience is impressive and really hard to achieve! That said, I'd have loved for you to contact me about the people pleaser post! My pleasure on the mention !

    Comment by Gabriel Goldenberg - April 11, 2008 @ 11:29am
  3. Finally ... you smartened up. [Edited for gratuitous dig.] PS: Once you reject your 'friends' vote requests... don't expect anything from them in the future even if your post is super-high quality. In social media it's not about quality... it's all too personal.

    Comment by 5ubliminal - April 22, 2008 @ 2:46am
  4. Hmm, well, deciding what to/not-to vote on is certainly a personal matter. I tend to digg almost anything that is not "hey, refinance your mortgage" because I'm easy. Ok, no Ron Paul Has The Secret To The Universe posts either. But otherwise. The real trick, in my opinion is that you need tools to help you get a useful friend list and to automate a lot of the navigation and repetitive work around, say, digging. Lucky for me (gratuitous self promotion alert) we have a product in beta test which does all that. Drop me a line if you're interested. -OT

    Comment by Oliellver Taco - May 18, 2008 @ 6:47am
  5. 5ub - It's something to test, but I don't think that'll happen. People appreciate you being honest. They may hold your own stuff to a high standard next time you ask, but that's fine by me. If everyone did that we'd have a better social news site. @ Oliver, I'd be more than happy to check out your tool. I'm focused on Sphinn and SU though, so it would need to work on those for me to use it.

    Comment by Gabriel Goldenberg - May 18, 2008 @ 12:43pm

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